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  1. How in practical life can I descern levels of assumptionsets? How do I know my assumptions and where they stand in relation to other assumptions?

    • Hi Mark,

      Thanks for your questions.

      I’m not sure I understand your questions, but let me give it a shot.

      Question 1: How in practical life can I discern levels of assumption sets

      Most people have automatic, subconscious filters for this, do I like it or not. Others use is it like me, or not. In other words, subconsciously we have filters built into our meaning making system–mostly emergent from our intrinsic motives.

      So PRACTICALLY, we are doing this all the time, is it dangerous, will it eat me, hurt me. An interesting one is the disgust filter which I don’t have much of…I know some people can’t eat food that even smells one degree off-flavor, or appears unclean, or can’t eat things off the floor. These are all “assumption-sets” about the way the world is according to the perception of each person.

      The easiest system I have ever found is one that emerges from McClelland’s work on HUMAN MOTIVATION, where he identified 3 social motives and discussed a fourth, the three being power, achievement and affiliation, and the fourth discussed but not fully vetted (by him I think) is avoidance. I can tell you for sure that you can’t go wrong using those four.

      Now, mostly we have some combination of those working and the avoidance, and affiliation motive systems are cool systems and indirect and they can fool people because of the roundabout way people expressing those systems get what they want, move away from what they don’t want.

      Out of those four systems come four movements which I have always found helpful and these all by the way can be easily made PRACTICAL with just a small amount of practice and training. I’ll list them for you here with the motive system (assumption-set) and the movement (behavior) which follows. Again these are oversimplified, but VERY practical and what we are trying to do is explain most of what is going on, NOT EVERYTHING.

      Power = Against; Achievement = Towards; Affiliation = With; Avoidance = Away From.

      Question 2: How do I know my assumptions and where they stand in relation to other assumptions?

      You can always find someone who is well versed in this type of self-knowledge work. We teach this to our coaches, and in the LeaderWARE @F-L-O-W program starting soon, we cover this more in-depth and show you actually how to PRACTICALLY see assumption-sets emerging out of each of the 7 DYNAMICS, if you are of the mind to get that granular and most coaches, consultants, any one in the helping professions and leaders will want to do.

      But basically, without any more training that what I shared for Answer 1, you can immediately start to assess your own behavior by just tick-marking your behavior on mostly important things during the day. At the end of the week, you will have a good idea which assumption-set is yours and how to see the difference between you and others, perhaps family members, friends, or peers.

      There is one more layer of distinction I’ll leave you with and that this set of assumptions:

      Power = Against = Doing
      Achievement = Towards = Having
      Affiliation = With = Being
      Avoidance = Away From = Becoming

      and there is a more recent assumption-set or ValuDYNAMIC as I label it in LeaderWARE, and that is “Contributing” and the movement is “collaborative” and the motive is a metaystem, or system about a system and for now, practically, that can be the OBJECT of those 4 motive systems, in other words, abstracting yourself and others away from your own preferred tendencies (while still being subject to them) and objectifying them to see the “combinatorial” effect of you and others.

      In part of this movement of contributing, cuing, support and scaffolding play a role at the collaboration level and there are many ideas out there about what motive system this represents, but my guess is that it has something to do with self-knowledge, or self-awareness.

      Hope that helps,


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